Here is a practice:
Observe your child enter the room
Say nothing
Consider yourself at your child’s age
Say nothing still
(If they ask you a question or request something, respond
minimally, just enough – you might have to put off the practice
for later – there will be many chances, believe)
Feel the back of your body
Sense your soft liquid self going right to the back
Still, remain quiet
Imagine what the person you were (and still are)
might most have wished to know about themselves
when they were constantly under the scrutiny
of the person who provided house and home, life and limb
Consider the privilege of knowing
this person, in front of you, now
who’s choice will, inevitably, be
to go away from that scrutiny, so that they can expand more fully
Feel again, the full volume
of you – how you have made this space
for yourself
to live in
Feel how your eyes/ ears/ tongue/ hands
can turn and soften, to touch within
There is that younger you,
just there – feel, where?
And, across the room
is someone entirely else
Can you look with new eyes?
If you do:
who
do
you
see,
please?
Practice with Devon 